Bella, I’m really sorry you’re going through this. What you’re experiencing is grief layered with betrayal, and that combination can feel unbearable — especially at 24, when you’re still processing the loss of your mother and suddenly being asked to “adjust” to something that feels deeply wrong.

First, let me be very clear: you are not being unreasonable.

You lost your mom recently. Grief doesn’t run on a schedule, and it doesn’t pause just because your father decided to move forward. What’s hurting you most isn’t simply that your dad remarried — it’s how fast it happened, how close Lucy is to your age, and how little space you’re being given to grieve.

Your reaction at dinner wasn’t cruelty — it was pain spilling out after being pushed too far.

Lucy removing your mother’s photos crosses a serious boundary. That wasn’t about “moving on.” That was about erasing your mother’s presence in a shared space without your consent. Her comment afterward — “Since we’re not family…” — was deliberately cold. That’s not neutrality; that’s hostility dressed up as honesty.

Your father dismissing this is the most painful part. When he says “you need to move on,” what he’s really doing is choosing comfort over empathy. He’s prioritizing his new life over acknowledging your grief — and that hurts because you expected him to protect your emotional space, especially after losing your mom.