On the night of our third anniversary, I thought my boyfriend, Ryan, was going to propose. He’d made reservations at a fancy downtown restaurant, told me to dress up, and hinted at a surprise. After a brutal week at work—where I was passed over for a promotion likely because of sexist assumptions—I desperately needed something to lift my spirits. I curled my hair, wore the emerald-green dress he once said made me look like a movie star, and walked into that candlelit restaurant ready for a moment I’d imagined for years.